When was the last time that you did something kind for yourself? Your life is busy, at times, emotionally draining, so being kind to yourself is often overlooked. But it is one of the most important things you can do. Waiting for someone else to give your kudos for a job well done or say thank you can set expectations and, when not met, can give you an even greater sense of depletion.
We all can run on empty, get cut off on the freeway, run into someone having a bad day who takes it out on you in the grocery store, and it takes every ounce of energy you have left not to derail them. Sound familiar? All perfect times to do something that fills you up.
Here are a few things that I do that help:
I call or text a friend out of the blue to say hi.
I push away from my desk and go outside for a few deep breaths, and especially during the fall, a quick 15-minute walk to enjoy the beauty of the trees changing can make a significant impact.
I am notorious for Saturday mornings, either putting on a little rock and roll or soft, soothing piano music, and the shift in my mood for the day is transformative.
I love going to the farmer's market and picking up beautiful flowers. $5 can go a long way in putting a smile on my heart for the week.
Another idea is writing in a journal and making an entry starting like this;
'Dear _______, Thank you for caring for your friend this week. Helping her out made such a difference, as did asking the woman struggling with public transit if there was something you could do to help. Little things make a difference, and I want you to know how much I appreciate all you do.'
I know that may take some getting used to for some of you. But you do so much; honestly, you do every day. The most important person that you need to be kind to is YOU. The rest will trickle out to everyone around you.
Step back. Stop. Remember how genuinely amazing you are because I know you are.
Hugs,
Cyndi Mariner
Breathing Spaces
