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Sharing Responsibilities


When it comes to daily living, your schedule is often full of your tasks and needs, coupled with those of your loved ones. The lines can often get blurred, and jobs can get overwhelming. I remember days of being afraid, perhaps ashamed, to ask for help because I felt it would make me look incompetent. After all, I was a grown woman with a business background in organizing and managing; surely, I could tend to all the tasks.


If you ever hear that tape playing, stop. Walk away. Take a deep breath and have a gentle conversation with yourself that you are not a superhero and no one expects you to be. Reverse the role; put yourself in the position of a loved one far away that can’t be there to help in person but perhaps can do things from afar.


I speak to all of this from a place of knowing. I’ve not only been the caregiver but thankful to have a sister on the east coast who was ready to jump in with assistance as often as she could. But here’s the trick: you must be willing to ASK for help. Mind-reading is not something most of us can do, so never assume someone else should know that you need help.


Many of you don’t have a support network to reach out to for help. When that’s the case, it’s important to remember that friends may be willing to jump in to run to the grocery store, or perhaps delivery services can be used.


Here are some simple tips that may support you as well, make a list of things you could use help with (regardless of how ‘small’ you may think they are):

  • Grocery delivery

  • Meal planning ideas

  • Ideas on communicating with loved ones or perhaps things they might be able to do that give them joy

  • Making phone calls for financial planning, banking, and insurance needs

Then set up a weekly meeting with loved ones or a phone call/email 1x a week that gives everyone involved a chance to catch up on what is happening and allows you to ask for help.


It’s also beneficial to journal things that happen, from things your loved one is experiencing to your thoughts. It removes the “Was it last week that Mom was talking about stomach issues….?”.


Please remember to fill up your reserve first. Whatever you can do to help support yourself will ultimately help your loved one, too.


Hugs,

Cyndi Mariner

Breathing Spaces

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