When you wake up in the morning, what are the first thoughts that come to mind? The tasks ahead, or perhaps everything left undone from yesterday?
Our minds have fascinating power and can take off into the never-never land of "what if?" so quickly. Often setting off a cascade of negative thoughts that feed upon each other to the point where doom and gloom can fill you up that you're sure you've done things wrong and nothing good will happen. Balance and inner peace may sound like a great idea for others, but you're sure you'll never have it.
Sounds dramatic. But in the days of caregiving, you are juggling a long to-do list and balancing your emotions with those of your loved one. Some days go by quickly, and others seem like a train wreck. And that never-never land of "what if?" comes flooding in.
There is great power in setting the tone for your day by being kind to yourself. After you wake up, sit on your bed and close your eyes. Take a deep breath and say to yourself, "Thank you for all that you've done and are going to do throughout this day."
Then during your day, even if only for a few moments, stop and do something that fills you with a breath of air. I take time away from my work every single day. Yes, there is a lot to do, but allowing time for a short walk, taking photos, gardening, or going out for lunch instead of eating in, truly resets my mind.
Find something that can work for you, and stop beating yourself up when you get into the same mind trap. If you do, stop and say to yourself, "It's ok. Don't panic. It will be ok". That may not solve the problem, but it will stop the negative energy you are feeding it, which can make a significant shift. Finding a way to let go of negative emotions is an essential part of being able to make it through your days.
No potion will relieve all of your stress or completely calm your nerves. Things happen, but learning how to reset and practice self-forgiveness and being kind to yourself every single day will make a difference for yourself and those around you.
Hugs,
Cyndi Mariner
Breathing Spaces
